I am sure many of you have seen the movie "The
Breakup" at some point, or maybe you even starred in it yourself.
Often times many of us have the tendency to get involved in relationships
and assume that this is it, this is the one that you were meant to be with.
But, is it? It’s pretty hard to figure that out in the beginning
due to the constant smoke screen that we put up. I call it the "Can’t see
the forest for the trees" type of thinking. Relationships are
unpredictable and honestly take a lot of work on both sides. You can’t have one
person working towards something and another working against it. That is why we
have BREAKUPS.
So you have invested all this time effort energy money and all matters of stock into this person. The person has been your comforter, you friend your, Confidant, your lover your best friend and yet, the time has come when it is over. What do you do with all of those emotions and energy? Of course as a woman you will probably cry. Some men will as well depending on how deep their feelings are for that woman and how good the relationship was benefiting his needs and desires and or the depth his feelings. In my opinion, men bounce back so much faster than women. This is only my opinion because I am a woman and I have only seen it from a woman's perspective.
So the thing is how do you get over the hurt and the absent presence of this person that was in your life? It’s not going to be easy. But you know you have to do it. Moving on is all you can do. It’s going to hurt and there are days that you will feel that you can’t move because that person is no longer there. I will never sit here and honestly tell you that it will not be a day by day challenge. But what I will tell you is you learn to get past it day by day. It’s a process. So let’s start with these tips to get you started.
- Don't sit and waste time looking through old photos videos and other
paraphernalia of that relationship. That is going to drive you up a wall
and you will never get a break to heal. I am not saying throw it away but
store it all in a safe place and leave it there.
- Find love in yourself again. Take yourself out on a date. Shopping,
a trip to the spa, dinner, movies (not a sad one). You will have to love
on yourself more because that person is no longer there to do those things
for you. Love on your as much as possible because in the grand scheme of
this entire relationship is, you were with yourself before you were with
that person.
- Get out as much as you can with your friends. Be around people that
make you laugh and enjoy life again with people that make you realize
what this life is all about anyway. Enjoying it!
- Realize your worth as an individual and make you your happy place.
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- Don't not run out and get into a rebound relationship. It could be
hazardous to your health. That never works out for people in the long run
and you are really not filling that void. You are actually allowing
another person to take up more space in your heart that probably should not be
in there. That is food for thought.
- Whatever life throws at you, meditation is always one of those
things that can bring you back to yourself and your center. This one
discipline can assist you in all the complicated emotions you have about
yourself and your heart. Getting to the heart of your pain and the reasons
things didn’t work out is a miracle worker if you’re willing to sit with
it.
Take these things in consideration and begin the healing
process. You will be fine and remember, it’s all about you now. LIVE LAUGH AND
LOVE YOURSELF.
