This time of year is very hard for some individuals. Mothers Day and Fathers Day and all the summer holidays thereafter. From Advertisements on TV to all of the commercialism in the stores to families getting together and celebrating and most of all just enjoying and celebrating life family and happiness. But what about those who lost a loved one and still in the grieving process. Has anyone ever considered people’s feelings in the mist of all of this celebrating?
Example: Mothers Day is the time to honor our mothers. It is a joyous occasion when celebrated with our children. For many mothers, it can be a depressing time if they are separated from from their children due to illness, death or distance. For others who are dealing with the death of their child or mother, it can be devastating. Women who are unable to have children or who are coping with the death of a child, may also feel sadness and despair.
I lost the only mother I will ever have a few years ago after being raised without my mother whom was murdered three months after my birth and not to mention my great grandmother whom I had until I was 25 years old. I guess you would call that a triple whammy for me. Its hits pretty close to home when the holidays such as Easter and Mothers Day come around.
Many holidays bring on an onset of depression that only people that have endured the pain can relate to. Depression is a disease of the mind. It’s not something that can just go away with time. Depression actually escalates with time and certain methods must be in place in order to either survive it or maintain it in a healthy manner.
I have suffered from depression for many years. I can remember as a teenager feeling sad and depressed. It was such a hard time for me. I wanted to fit in and didn’t. There were so many things going on in my life at that time and then I had to go to school and fit in with these cruel kids who did not like me because I didn’t look like them or act like them or dress like them. There are a lot of kids that have their own identity and that do not fit into the cliques but unfortunately, someone will always find something wrong with you. But is it really about you? “Food for thought”
I know I am going in many different directions but many need to understand the ramifications of those that are not strong as others. You know the individuals whose feelings are less stable thank your own. The individuals that many have some things that needs to be worked out mentally.
It’s totally imperative that instead of leaving an individual alone, to be a friend and ask if you can help. Hold their hand and just sit there and be quiet. Just seeing that would allow them to know that they are not alone.
Stop being so judgmental to others. You never know what they may be going through and what could take them over the edge. People do not Overdose on drugs because they are having a good time, they overdose because they are trying to numb the pain.
It’s up to us as individuals to open our mouths and say something to our friends and loved ones to ensure that nervous, breakdowns, panic disorder, anxiety, stress, suicide and other mental disabilities do not take each and every last one of our loved ones.
We are each other’s brothers and sisters... Protectors! We were put here to love and be loved. No one deserves to be anything less.
Below I leave you with some coping mechanisms that will assist you and or assist you with your loved ones to get through this season of summer time holidays.
1) Allow yourself time to grieve. Express your emotions and feelings.
2) Show others you care. Reach out to an aunt, mother in law or friend.
3) Stay positive. Your loved one would want you to be happy.
4) Stay active. Do something you love to do.
5) Help others. Visit a nursing home and share the day with others.
6) Eat well.
7) Get enough sleep.
8) Reflect on the good memories of your loved one and smile.
9) Get professional help if you need to. Do not try to cope with sadness and depression on your own.
Know that this number may save a life. Put it on speed dial. National Crisis Hotline: 800-273-8255
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